Quiz: Is It An Intrusion, Rumination Or Worry?
Pick one thought or image about your ex and find out which mental process it is, so you can use the right technique.
Obsessing about your ex
Video: How To Solve Your Worries After A Breakup
A 7-step problem-solving method for worries that have a solution, with a worked example and two exercises.
Video: Obsessing About Your Ex
Does your ex keep popping into your mind when you least expect it? A short video lesson from my PhD research.
Being attached to your ex
Have I Disengaged From My Ex?
Rate 10 areas of falling out of love with your ex, 5 emotional and 5 behavioral, and write a plan for each one.
How Much Do I Miss My Ex? Daily Record
Rate how much you miss your ex each day and see on a graph how it changes over two months.
Video: Being Attached To Your Ex
Do you still feel something for your ex? A short video lesson from my PhD research.
Analyzing why it ended
Quiz: Why Can’t I Stop Analyzing the Reasons for My Breakup?
Find out which beliefs about the need to know keep you analyzing why it ended, and get a healthier self-talk to get unstuck, plus two free exercises.
Pros and Cons of Knowing Why It Ended
List what wanting to know the reasons gives you and what it costs you, and decide if the search is worth it.
Video: Analyzing Why It Ended
Why did it end? A short video lesson from my PhD research.
Hoping to reconcile
Friend or Foe: Can I Be Friends With My Ex?
If you’re in contact with your ex, check whether a friendship between you can be healthy.
Techniques to Stop Hoping for Reconciliation
The techniques you’ll use every day to let go of the hope of getting back together.
Video: Hoping To Reconcile
Are you waiting for your ex to change their mind? A short video lesson from my PhD research.
Anger rumination
What Pushes My Anger Buttons?
Find the anger themes behind the situations that make you ruminate, so you know which beliefs to challenge.
How to Challenge Your Anger
Two worked examples with ten counter-arguments each, then your own belief, step by step, ending in a self-talk.
Video: Anger Rumination
Do you go over what your ex did, again and again, and feel angry every single time? A short video lesson from my PhD research.
Running away from pain
Quiz: Why Can’t I Stop Running Away From the Pain?
Find out which beliefs keep you avoiding thoughts, memories and reminders of your ex, and get a healthier self-talk to get unstuck, plus two free exercises.
What Do I Avoid?
Check which kinds of avoidance you use since the breakup, in your head and in what you do, and choose your first step.
Video: Running Away From Pain
Do you stay away from the places you used to go together? A short video lesson from my PhD research.
Seeking closeness to your ex
Am I Seeking Closeness To My Ex?
See which ways of seeking closeness to your ex you use, why you use them, and how they may be affecting you.
Cognitive Behavioral Techniques To Stop Seeking Closeness To Your Ex
Choose 5 behavioral and 2 cognitive techniques to stop checking on your ex, contacting them and going over them in your head.
Video: Seeking Closeness To Your Ex
Do you check your ex’s social media? A short video lesson from my PhD research.
From my research
My research
Why Some People Stay Stuck After A Breakup
The main findings of my PhD in a 5-page report with graphs, easy to understand.
7 Warning Signs You’re Not Over Your Ex
The 7 blocks associated with more distress after a breakup, on one page to save or print.
Looking for the 7 core tools, one for each block?
See the Heartbreak Toolkit