The book
Where can I buy The Acceptance Guide to Breakup Recovery?
It’s coming soon. It will be sold in bookstores and online retailers, not on this website. Join the launch list and I’ll email you on launch day.
What do I get if I join the launch list?
Resources I don’t share on my website, and the first chapter as soon as the book comes out.
Is the book for me if I was the one who ended it?
Yes. In my research, who ended it made less difference than people think. What kept people stuck was what they did next, in their head. That’s what this book works on.
Does the book replace therapy?
No. It’s a self-help workbook based on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). If you’re struggling to cope, or you’re in crisis, please speak to your doctor or a mental health professional.
The tools and downloads
Are the tools really free?
Yes. Type your email in the tool’s pop-up and I’ll send you a personal download link.
I asked for a tool. Where is it?
Check your inbox in the next few minutes, and your Promotions or Spam folder, just in case. The email comes from me, Dr. Silvia Buet González. When it arrives, add my address to your contacts so my emails reach your inbox.
My download link doesn’t work. What do I do?
Go back to the tool’s page and ask for a new link. It’s free.
Which tool should I start with?
Pick the one that fits where you’re struggling most. If you’re not sure, take the quiz “Why Can’t I Get Over My Ex?”. Your report shows which of the 7 blocks are holding you back and which tool to use first.
The quizzes
What does the quiz measure?
It looks at the 7 blocks I found in my PhD research, which were associated with more distress after a breakup. You get a score for each one.
How long does it take?
20 quick questions, 3 to 4 minutes. You see your results on screen as soon as you finish, and you get a 10-page personal report.
Emails and privacy
How do I unsubscribe?
Every email has an unsubscribe link at the bottom. One click and you won’t hear from me again.
What do you do with my email?
I use it to send you what you asked for and, from time to time, more free resources and videos. I never sell it. You’ll find all the details in my Privacy Policy.
My research
What was your research about?
Why some people get over a breakup in just a few months, while others feel stuck for years. For my PhD study at Queen’s University Belfast, 255 people who had split up in the last 12 months answered my questionnaire.
What does “associated with” mean?
It means two things went together in my study: people with more of one also had more of the other. It doesn’t prove that one caused the other.
If you’re in crisis
Can these tools help me if I’m in crisis?
No. These tools are educational. If you’re in crisis or thinking about harming yourself, please contact your local emergency services or a crisis line right away.
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