Getting back together
Mixed Signals And Desire For Reconciliation After A Breakup
Your ex answers your messages and is friendly with you. Does that mean they want you back? Often it doesn’t, and staying close keeps the hope going.
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Stuck points
7 Reasons Why You Can’t Get Over Your Breakup
My 2018 study looked at why some people get over a breakup quickly while others stay stuck. These are seven of the reasons I found.
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Anger rumination
Why Am I Still So Angry At My Ex? I Can’t Stop Ruminating.
In my research, going over anger-provoking situations had the second strongest association with breakup grief. Why we keep doing it, and how to stop.
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Closure and why it ended
Moving On Without Closure: When You Don’t Know Why It Ended
In my research, understanding the reasons for the breakup wasn’t associated with distress. Going over them was. Here’s why the answer may not set you free.
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Obsessing about your ex
Why Can’t I Stop Thinking About My Ex Or The Breakup?
In my research, thoughts and memories that pop in uninvited had one of the strongest associations with breakup grief. Why pushing them away backfires, and what to do instead.
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Time and moving on
How Long Does It Take To Get Over A Breakup?
Six months? Two years? In my research, how long ago the breakup happened wasn’t associated with how much grief people felt. Here’s what was.
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20 questions, 3 to 4 minutes, and a personal report with your results.