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Quiz: Why Can’t I Stop Running Away From the Pain?

I can’t go there. I can’t hear that song. Do you push away thoughts, memories or places that remind you of your ex? This quiz finds the beliefs behind it, with a self-talk for each.

The aim

Find the beliefs behind avoiding the pain, and challenge each one.

What you get

  • 11 beliefs you rate from 0% to 100%
  • A personal report with a self-talk for each belief you rate 50% or more
  • Two free exercises: What Do I Avoid?, and Friend or Foe
  • Free. Your report opens as soon as you finish, and a copy goes to your email.

From my researchIn my research, running away from pain (avoiding reminders, thoughts and feelings about the breakup) was associated with more breakup grief and general distress, not less.

Dr. Silvia Buet González

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Dr. Silvia Buet González

Author and psychologist. Over 35 years of experience in the UK as a BABCP-accredited CBT psychotherapist. PhD research on breakup distress at Queen’s University Belfast.

Quiz: Why Can’t I Stop Running Away From the Pain?