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Exercise · Analyzing why it ended

Pros and Cons of Knowing Why It Ended

I need to know why. Do you? This exercise helps you weigh it up. You list what wanting to know the reasons gives you, and what it costs you.

The aim

Decide if the search for the reasons is worth it.

What you get

  • Two baskets: what wanting to know gives you, and what it costs you
  • Room for at least 10 pros and cons
  • Sent to your email.

From my researchIn my research, understanding the reasons for the breakup wasn’t associated with more grief. Going over them was.

Dr. Silvia Buet González

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Dr. Silvia Buet González

Author and psychologist. Over 35 years of experience in the UK as a BABCP-accredited CBT psychotherapist. PhD research on breakup distress at Queen’s University Belfast.

Pros and Cons of Knowing Why It Ended