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Self-assessment · Seeking closeness to your ex

Am I Seeking Closeness To My Ex?

I just want to see how they are. Checking their profiles, keeping their things, talking to them in your head. This self-assessment helps you see which ways of seeking closeness you use, why, and how they may be affecting you.

The aim

See which ways of seeking closeness to your ex you use, and what they do to you.

What you get

  • A check of 7 ways of seeking closeness, in what you do and in your head
  • Why you use them, and how they may be affecting you
  • A PDF you can fill in on screen or print
  • Sent to your email.

From my researchIn my research, seeking closeness to your ex (proximity seeking) was associated with more breakup grief.

Dr. Silvia Buet González

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Dr. Silvia Buet González

Author and psychologist. Over 35 years of experience in the UK as a BABCP-accredited CBT psychotherapist. PhD research on breakup distress at Queen’s University Belfast.

Am I Seeking Closeness To My Ex?