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Video · Seeking closeness to your ex

Video: Seeking Closeness To Your Ex

Do you check your ex’s social media? Go back to old photos? Talk to them in your head? You’ll learn three things. At the end, I’ll tell you what you need to do.

In this video

  • What seeking closeness to your ex means. The concept comes from grief studies.
  • Seven examples, and the one that nearly 3 in 10 of my participants used every week or more.
  • Why the desire to have contact matters more than the contact itself. Plus a word of caution.
  • Sent to your email.

From my researchIn my research, seeking closeness to your ex (proximity seeking) was associated with more breakup grief.

Dr. Silvia Buet González

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Dr. Silvia Buet González

Author and psychologist. Over 35 years of experience in the UK as a BABCP-accredited CBT psychotherapist. PhD research on breakup distress at Queen’s University Belfast.

Video: Seeking Closeness To Your Ex