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Exercise · Analyzing why it ended

Careful What You Wish For

If I just knew why they left, I could move on. Would you? The real reasons can hurt more than not knowing. This exercise puts that wish to the test. You read a letter asking an ex for the truth. Then you read the reply.

The aim

Decide whether you really want to know the real reasons for the breakup.

What you get

  • Two letters: one asking an ex for the real reasons, and the reply
  • A warning before the reply, so you choose when to read it
  • Three questions to answer after you read them
  • Free, sent to your email.

From my researchIn my research, understanding the reasons for the breakup wasn’t associated with more grief. Going over them was.

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Dr. Silvia Buet González

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Dr. Silvia Buet González

Author and psychologist. Over 35 years of experience in the UK as a BABCP-accredited CBT psychotherapist. PhD research on breakup distress at Queen’s University Belfast.

Careful What You Wish For